Given the fact that it can be rather difficult to accept you need counselling in the first place, the prospect of giving one counsellor the boot and switching to another is one most would rather avoid. Unfortunately, not all counsellors currently working in a professional capacity are cut from the same cloth or willing/able to offer the same kind of treatment. Not only this, but there will also be instances in which clients and counsellors simply do not gel — the reasons being inconsequential.
As far as the experts at http://www.davidgoodlad.co.uk/ are concerned, to ignore the fact that your current counsellor may not in fact be the best counsellor for the job could be just as harmful as never having bothered to seek a counsellor in the first place. So in the interests of ensuring that your treatment progresses as smoothly and efficiently as possible, here’s a quick overview of seven sure-fire signs that you’d be better off switching to a new counsellor:
1 — They Annoy You
First and foremost, while it might seem rather petty and indeed irrelevant to some, you cannot expect to get full benefit from your sessions when and where your counsellor annoys the living hell out of you. There’s a difference between nit-picking and working with a counsellor who annoys or distracts you so much that you simply cannot focus on what you should be focusing on. It doesn’t have to be all negative either — it could be that you find them so hopelessly attractive that this in its own right has become a major annoyance and distraction.
2 — Lack of Eye Contact
Whether or not eye contact is of any real consequence in your own opinion doesn’t matter. What does matter however is that when it comes to the provision of professional counseling services, it is simply unacceptable for those working within the industry not to fully display at all times that they are giving you their complete time and attention. And as one of the most basic signs of complete attention is an eye contact throughout the conversation, it’s something you should be looking out for.
3 — It’s All a Big Joke
There’s a very big difference between occasionally putting a lighthearted spin on things and generally making you feel as if the problems you are bringing to the table are insignificant…perhaps even a bit of a joke. The simple fact of the matter is that you should never be made to feel as if whatever problems you have are in any way being interpreted as remedial or silly. If you are not constantly convinced that your counsellor is taking you and your problem seriously, you need to speak to one who does.
4 — Time-Checking
It’s important not to get offended if at the end of your session, you’re informed that time is up and you’ll be seen again next week. This is of course necessary to ensure that every subsequent client isn’t made to wait unfairly, but there’s a very big difference between letting you know the session is coming to an end up and constantly staring at the clock or glancing down at a watch every few minutes. All this does is confirm the fact that the so-called professional you are interesting with your case has more important things to do, or is simply bored of you and your problems. Suffice to say in all instances, unacceptable.
5 — Lack of Focus
Something else to be aware of is any indication that your counsellor is not sufficiently focusing on you and your case, but is instead being distracted by various other activities and commitments. For example, there’s really nothing more disrespectful than answering telephone calls, responding to text messages or glancing at emails during the time you yourself have paid for their full and total attention. Once again, any kind of distraction or lack of focus immediately and absolutely confirms that you are not their priority. And if you are not their priority, what exactly are you wasting your money on?
6 — Poor Reliability
Last but not least, these are the kinds of individuals you have to have total respect for and confidence in, in order for the assistance and advice they offer to be believed, heeded and helpful. Unfortunately, it is difficult to build this kind of confidence in an individual who a) constantly keeps you waiting, b) has a habit of turning up late or c) is prone to cancelling arrangements left, right and centre. As is the theme in so many of these points, poor reliability shows a blatant disregard for both the client and the personal subjects they are bringing to the table.